Wednesday, November 10, 2010
good, the bad, and the ugly
A friend of mine recently swore off blogs. She got tired of reading her friends blogs and having them depict this glorious, sugar-coated life that she knew was not realistic. I will admit, on a blog, you tend to put the fun things, the exciting things, something out of the ordinary routine of life. I can see how this gives a warped perspective. But if we write down real life, will anyone read it? Is it boring? Is it negative? This is where my dilemma comes in. I want to be positive and display fun things on my blog, but I want to be real. (Like my last post admitting the soup I made that flopped.) I don't care to write all the horrible things my children do. I don't feel it's uplifting, but if I'm honest, sometimes the kids do things that drive me crazy. (like draw on the computer screen) So hopefully, I can find a balance in what I post. I can write the truth and be real, but be optimistic about it. And now, I must be truthful with myself and quit putting off the mountain of dishes in my kitchen! But I'm going to be optimistic about it. Won't my kitchen feel so much better when I'm done!
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Please share the good, bad, AND ugly! It makes me feel better when my kids are being little punks (like right now) that I'm not the only mom ready to rip her hair out some days.
I'm all for being realistic, but if I spend too much time dwelling on the bad and the ugly I don't see the good. I'm not out to sugar coat my life, but if I write mostly about the good then that's all I see because that's what I'm looking for. Not that my life is always fabulous, but I find when I'm optimistic and look for the good it's truly good and awesome.
You're so good for being optomistic about dishes!
To answere you question about my "carzy Marshall boy," he currently works for the gov't down in AZ. It has been a year now since he got his current job. We won't be in the sunny south for long because in January we will be moving up north. How about you? Is Mike still in school? Where to next for you guys?
I think for me anyway...i don't enjoy those blogs that write about all the ugly. some of those things I think should be kept for your personal journal. so I have a personal journal for the not so good things, and I use my blog as my journal to record the everyday exciting and mundane things...but I don't really like to share a lot of the negative...although, I don't really have much negative in my life as it is. I like what Super Pi said, If i write about the good things then that is what i remember, and who wants to really remember the bad stuff anyway? I mean if i was going through something super tough I think i would write about the lessons i learned or something along those lines. So I guess what i am trying to say is that the truely ugly should be saved for more private settings i think. I don't sugar coat anything i put on my blog, i just blog it how it is and that is usually the fun and exciting things we have done. And yes, i should be doing my dishes, mopping my floor, and folding my laundry umongst a million other things...but here i sit blogging!!!! I don't even know if this novel i just wrote made any sense! HA
P.s. I usually write the ugly as my facebook status to get it off my chest for an hour and then i'm over it anyway, it usually doesn't need anymore then a sentence so I wouldn't be able to dedicate a whole post to it anyway!
My life might look sunny on my blog - but if you were to read my journal...it would be just too depressing. My life is pretty darn great for the most part - and that's what I'm willing to share with others - because all the other stuff: #1 would be waaaaay too much for most people to handle; #2 I don't want to make the effort to write down all the semi-bad stuff that doesn't make it into my journal (although maybe I should); and #3 I think most people really don't want to hear me complain - they'd rather read the good stuff and then complain about how much better everyone else's lives are - or how much better everyone TRYS to make their lives sound. On the other hand - I LOVE to read about everyone else's bad days...they provide excellent entertainment!!
ok - that's too funny - I was in the middle of commenting at the same time as the other Tiffany - and we said basically the same thing!
hahaha! i just read Tiffany's comment, and i was like hey that is exactly how i feel...maybe it's in the name!! Great name by the way! HA! that is funny!
When I'm having a bad day I read my blog... I remember all the wonderful times and how much I love my family. I don't write my blog for others, I write it for my family so we can all remember the wonderful times and make them the highlight of our memories rather than the really hard times.
I like to think I keep it pretty real and happy on my blog. I think one thing that helps me stay balanced is writing often. I post every few days. Even though I try to stay positive, the crazy things of daily motherhood are recorded too. When its longer in between posts, then it comes across more sugar-coated "look how awesome my life is" type of posts instead of "normal life" posts.
But maybe I'm just saying this so you'll write more often. I like to hear about our "twin" lives. :)
Hi Heather! This is way late, but I just saw your post. I have had this same dilemma for a long time. I have to say that I agree with all of the other posts - especially Tiffany F. I don't want other people to think I'm trying to make my life look perfect, but I just can't bring myself to write about when I'm going crazy with potty training. I am just relieved to know that some people agree with me! So thanks, that made me feel better about my happy blog. :)
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